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Date: Thu, 31-Oct-2024 6:40:07 AM PDT
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In topic: ~*~*~WEEK OF OCTOBER 28 POTPOURRI~*~*~ posted by Wahoo
In reply to: Thank you--glad we're all good here 😄 posted by Wahoo

True. As much as we all like to share on SZ, we will never know *everything* about each other.

It's truly the little things. I know how many siblings you have and all about your dad and your work history, but I don't know what random hobbies you might have or what clubs you belongs to in HS, so we all might have these weird pockets of knowledge no one knows about.

That sounds lovely! The most bougie wedding I've been to was a cousin's destination wedding in Mexico. 10 months (not years, months) later, the couple was divorced. Seems like once my cousin "put a ring on it", he thought it was OK to get physical, and not in a fun way. I'm so proud of my cousin for shutting that down REAL quick.

Ha! Well, my cousin had a really lovely wedding at a very prime Toronto location and it was very pricy. But they're still married and they're still bougie.

Years later, this is still a sort of joke among friends. As in "yeah, this reception isn't that great but at least nobody b!tch-slapped the caterer!"

It is a low bar, but I think we all have those for weddings. Every dull speech I sit through, I think of the one where my friend's dad got boo'ed for saying "well, this is a day I never thought would come."

Exactly! Yes, the bride was more than a wee bit drunk at that point but sheesh, what a thing to whine about. Surprisingly, the couple is still married; they went on to have two kids of their own in addition to raising his kids from his first marriage. But nobody feels it's a "good" marriage. Ask my bff some time about her thoughts on this particular SIL...but be sure to set aside an hour or so to hear them.

I get that the stress if outrageous. But it veers into mental illness at some point.

Yes, yes, YES! One of my guilty pleasures is reading the Reddit forum "Am I the a-hole?" A surprising number of stories center around a bride's unrealistic expectations (guests wearing certain colors and/or outfits, bridesmaids having to pay for their dress AND a destination bachelorette party AND plane tickets/lodging for a destination wedding, etc.). And like you and chloe, I've watched Four Weddings and cringed at some of the expectations, and expenses, the brides have.

The ones that get me are the brides who want someone to dye their hair.

But I also think people are often dying on hills they do not need to die on, all the time. And those posts really seem to have entrenched certain ideas about weddings. Like the wearing white thing or announcing your pregnancy at the wedding -- or proposing at the wedding! These are all bad moves. Don't do them. But sometimes a bride has actually asked someone to do something and then people have this RABID reaction and the bride is like "I chose the white and blue dress! She's my bridesmaid!" or "I wanted my sister to announce her pregnancy!" "We gave the best man permission to propose to the MOH!" -- and once people have decided to be mad, they stay mad. Some people just cannot redirect once they are told they don't have a reason to be mad. It's wild.


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  • Well... - Wahoo - 31-Oct-2024 7:36 AM
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