Earlier, at the picnic someone else called him Terrance and he corrected them by saying don't use my government name. The person was like, that's your name right? I don't remember his exact reply because I was talking to someone else because we were all playing cards.
Is this something new or has he always insisted on going by something other than Terrance?
Yup. Stubborn and holds grudges.
Oof. Sometimes, there's just no reasoning with people like that.
🫂 And thank you for taking the time to reply with your thoughts.
You're very welcome!
Update: I called him, he didn't answer and then I text him: Bro, hit me back so we can talk. Crickets. So I'm done. How are you going to be this pissed at me when you are the one who threw water on me? It will be a miracle if we comeback from this. My best friend who is close to both of us states he didn't see how it started and just give it some time for things to settle down. I will say that he did just lose his mother in May. She had been sick for a long time. He has seemed fine since then, as he told me he had already prepared himself because he knew it was coming and she was ready to go. At our outings, he's been laughing, smiling and being his normal self. Could he be hiding lingering grief? I guess he could and if he mentions that to me, of course that will add to the lack of grace I feel currently.
It's very possible his action came from a place of grief. I still don't think that entirely excuses throwing water at you but it makes it a bit more understandable.
You did the right--and mature--thing, IMO. The ball is now in his court, so to speak.
I am slightly worried about any tension if we all go out as a group, as it's usually just the 5 of us. So, I might skip our group dinners for a bit. We will see.
I get that--things could be awkward for a while. But it sounds like "right" is on your side here so I hope the group understands. Wait until the next group dinner and decide then if you want to go out with everyone or wait a few months to see how you (and everyone else) feel.
