she’s the one who asked you if you have any interest in going to Marietta, it seems safe to think bff is interested in exploring Marietta. Do you think that adding the concert to the trip is what is causing her conflict?
I’m a big fan of direct, honest, clear communication. Beating around the bush and being vague and noncommittal is so frustrating. Not as bad as truly passive/aggressive behavior but just as frustrating. I also hate when people fantasize aloud about doing something they have no intention of doing, draw you into their fantasy and then let go of it once they’re done fantasizing about planning a trip (or ordering a pizza). It’s like they assumed that you were just fantasizing too.
If I remember correctly, your bff was a nurse for decades, the latter part of her career in management. If so, she must have been making decent money for years. It’s hard to believe that she can’t afford a short, local trip. But I don’t know what her expenses and responsibilities are, so maybe she really doesn’t have the money. Or maybe it’s not about money. Is she depressed? If so, she might be feeling too down to enjoy a roadtrip. But it also might be just what she needs.
Really, the answer to all of this is to just ask her directly, since she suggested Marietta, what her conflicts and issues are. And you can be direct about the solution to leaving the dogs for a few days if she uses the dogs as an excuse. It really sounds like you two just need to talk.
