because at this point I had to be the angry person pointing out how messed up things are and now I have to be the calm "there is a way out" person... and he's the kid's father, which is an unavoidable fact.
It's very hard to make peace with the fact that he is going to break her kids' hearts and I understand that. As much as I think that was always a lock. He never wasn't going to be like this.
She's in therapy and the therapist keeps saying "this is the best he can do with the skills he's been given." Which my friend has interpreted as giving him an excuse, but I think the suggestion is more about making peace with the idea that this is it -- this is who he is. Barring extraordinary circumstances, this is how it will continue to be.
