I know he is the most hated man in town and has done awful things, without remorse. I say yes. Here's why. The wake and service are typically an hour each. Allow him to attend, to pay his respects but under the condition that he is not allowed to eulogize her. Knowing the person Monica was, I think she would want him there because she had a big heart. Let him attend and make him park his wheelchair in the back. If he shows up and makes a scene about not getting in--that will just add to the stressful day.
Last year, a friend I've known for 40 years--died after her 3rd bout with cancer. Her older sister had a fallen out with the family 6-12 months earlier. I arrived 15 minutes late for the wake and this woman with a big hat and huge sunglasses spoke to me. I had no idea who it was because she was clearly incognito. It turned out to be the older sister. I hugged her and asked why she wasn't already inside with the family? "They don't want me here, but I'm not about to skip out on paying respect to my little sister." I felt sorry for her. I believe she skipped the repast to avoid the drama.
My uncle remarried years ago and as he was in hospice, his new wife would not allow his children to see him. She was just a bitch. There was talk of people wanting to jump her at the funeral, but luckily it didn't happen. The wife actually skipped the repast. That might have been for the best because there was likely going to be a fight.
The day is not about Drew or anyone else. The day is about Monica. Hit pause on your issues for a few hours and go back to despising each other after that.
