It comical that she talks about how Carly never pays for the things she does, as she helps spinelli hack into government FBI files to satisfy her curiosity. Hypocrite much....
Again, Sam was fine for most of the last 20yrs with Jason and his lifestyle and always knew Carly came first....but she still married him and had a child with him, when he himself was hesitant to have another child. And if she wasn't with Dante right now she'd be all over Jason imo. And if it was her he was protecting, I'm sure she would not be upset about that.