I remember scenes of young Spencer with Nikolas so no, I’m not going to say he’s completely horrible.
Esme with memories jumped off a parapet with no concern for her unborn child.
Esme when her memories returned left the child with the babysitter after not spending his first Christmas with him. Trina has been pushing for him to not only focus on the bad things but remember the good. I don’t think this is a pause moment. One where she questions his decisions? Yes but once she knows Esne has her memories back she may not take pause.